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I'm African-American and this book has changed my life. I can't even put it into words. So many things but one passage about white solidarity (I won't say what it is, because I don't want to spoil the book) sticks out because it left me in tears; I had seen what DiAngelo described as "white solidarity" all through my adult life but had no words or validation on what this was until reading this book. I cried because it brought up an past issue where I was accused of being "aggressive" simply for articulating a counter point-of-view and that accusation had serious consequences. The "racial triggers for white people" was, by far, the most informative chapter for me. If I had known about this before, I could've used that knowledge and changed the trajectory of my life. I cannot recommend this book enough. My only small, frivolous, insignificant, petulant quibble is that there isn't an index, so I'm rereading it again with a highlighter. Thank you for what you do.


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White Fragility Why It So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism Robin DiAngelo Michael Eric Dyson 9780807047415 Books Reviews

Fantastic writing. So clear and explicit. I wish all white progressive people who want to see more justice in the world, and not participate in racism, would read this book. I do worry that they will be turned off by the title. This is not a shaming, blaming, guilt-inducing book. This is like a primer for white people, especially white progresses who think of themselves as not racist, to wake up out of the their own blindness to their participation in and maintenance of racism. No matter how ‘woke’ we think we are, there’s always more to see and uncover how we’ve been conditioned in the racist system that is foundational and omnipresent in America.
I am very reluctant to give a negative review, especially when the author is trying to be helpful. In places the author has correctly diagnosed a number of genuine problems.

Merely being non-racist isn’t good enough, because you end up as a bystander when a bully is beating up on a victim; both covering your eyes and ears and refusing to acknowledge what the victim (of racism) is telling you is happening to them.

If you haven’t been a victim you cannot fully understand being a victim. If you haven’t experienced the pervasiveness and constancy of negative bias both coming from other groups and even influencing your own view of yourself – then you will never completely comprehend. So in one respect a white person cannot truly say, “I get it.”

Neither can you ever do enough to win a gold star and say you’ve done “enough” as long as racism exists.

It’s like the Talmudic maxim “you will never finish perfecting the world, but you are never free to stop trying.”

If the book stopped there, it would be fine. Perhaps even excellent.

But I give this book one star because it makes the problem worse.

This book is like a bad date where the other person is accusing you of all of your failures, and when you try to make up, to do better, to understand more, to be fully engaged as an ally, you are continually pushed away.

And then you are told to “breathe” and calm down. Surely you are getting upset and proving the thesis!

Except that’s not what’s happening.

Yes, whites don’t see racism because they aren’t a target of it. If you aren’t a racist, then you don’t hang around racists. And if you aren’t black then you don’t have it hurled in your face. 99% of the problem is created by 1% of whites who other whites don’t see.

The same would be true for misogyny. 99% of rapes are caused by 1% of perps, and the 99% of innocent men don’t see it because the perps aren’t harassing them.

So men need to listen without being defensive. Whites need to listen without being defensive. It’s wrong to say, “But I’m not doing it” as if that will make it go away.

But it’s also wrong to say that the non-harassing men or the non-harassing whites are guilty BECAUSE of their innocence.

No, they aren’t being bad. They are being clueless. And instead of being accused they need to be engaged.

Especially when they WANT to listen and be helpful.

In short, if someone wants to be your friend – let them.

This book doesn’t invite engagement and doesn’t let the non-involved to become involved in affirmatively fighting racism. It turns a lot of would be allies away.

Ultimately, it’s self defeating.

We need more people aware of racism. We need more people fighting racism. We need the majority engaged in helping the minority, rather than being turned away.

I’d give this book five stars if it were half as long. But it’s the flawed existentialism that makes this book a hindrance to people who should be friends, and would be friends, if they were allowed to be.
According to this author, those that are identified as white (not necessarily those who identify AS white) are guilty of racism and must be prepared to be tongue-lashed by her. It is curious that somehow denigrating a person by their skin color is not racist when done by a person of the same appearance. It is a popular book for those that need more of a reason to feel bad about themselves.
Ironically, the subject is timely and through reading other sources of information on institutionalized racism, I have noticed many examples of this. The articles were well written and effective in that I was not made to feel that anything I did or said was automatically suspect and therefore invalid. A state of paralysis is not one from which change can occur.
I am a white pastor who is a part of a team that fights against racism within the church. Engaged in public education in Christian circles has been a sobering experience as white people hide behind their belief to support their fragility and prejudice. This book provided me with personal insight that I have never before encountered. The insight is that as a white man, I carry racism and the benefits of white privilege with me all the time. This understanding deepens my empathy and awareness when working with others from all social and racial backgrounds. I need to be consciously "less-white" and seek honest feedback from minority groups.
If you are interested in reconciliation and peace-making this book is for you. Be brave and look at yourself as you read it. DiAngelo has given the reader an opportunity for personal growth and insight. This book's insight is a big step toward white maturity and relational peace.
I'm African-American and this book has changed my life. I can't even put it into words. So many things but one passage about white solidarity (I won't say what it is, because I don't want to spoil the book) sticks out because it left me in tears; I had seen what DiAngelo described as "white solidarity" all through my adult life but had no words or validation on what this was until reading this book. I cried because it brought up an past issue where I was accused of being "aggressive" simply for articulating a counter point-of-view and that accusation had serious consequences. The "racial triggers for white people" was, by far, the most informative chapter for me. If I had known about this before, I could've used that knowledge and changed the trajectory of my life. I cannot recommend this book enough. My only small, frivolous, insignificant, petulant quibble is that there isn't an index, so I'm rereading it again with a highlighter. Thank you for what you do.